By: Rachael

For me the answer to this question is pretty apparent- everyday, and multiple times at that! Sex is crucial, at least for me, in controlling manic-like mood swings and increasing my productivity and creativity.Fortunately for me, as odd as it sounds, I am having way more of it as a single girl then I ever did in my last committed relationship. That is by no means to say that I am slutting it up out there, it just exemplifies the fact that we were doing it next to never. I am sure you are all tired of hearing about him and I am even more sick of talking about him, but lets just say now that I have put that relationship to bed, I am spending a lot more time in bed…and not by myself!

 

I wasn’t married so that isn’t the obvious explanation, and we were not really together long enough for things to have fizzled…and the intimacy was definitely there on other levels as he spent many a time crying on my shoulder (literally). Actually that could be one reason we weren’t doing it more often because there is no bigger turn off then a man who can not control his emotions. I am not totally heartless so I do make exceptions when it comes to deaths or extreme pain, but when you are declaring your feelings and can not do so without shedding the tears, I would probably prefer to sleep alone.

 

After a little soul searching and polling my friends I have come to the realization that I may have a higher sex drive then most people…maybe he just couldn’t keep up? Many have asked me if he just couldn’t get it up but that was never a problem, most days he just ignored his boners and somehow magically willed them away. Maybe what I considered next to never was actually more than average for other couples? Clearly the answer to this question is different for everyone and depends on your current status.

If you are married, statistics claim you are probably having sex less frequently which I personally can not fathom because for me that is one of the only appeals of marriage is that there is someone there every night who is legally obligated to have sex with you. If you are in a relationship with a person you see everyday then you should be having sex everyday. If you are in a long distance relationship you should be having phone sex… or the new, improved version of this – skype sex everyday for supplemental purposes or just end the long distance relationship because its probably leading to nowhere fast. Just because you are single doesn’t mean you shouldn’t also be having sex everyday and if you aren’t quite the free spirit to go out and sleep with strangers it is time to become reacquainted with yourself. I had a roommate in college that went to an adult toy store and bought her first vibrator and no one saw her for a week after that. Ok, who am I kidding it wasn’t my roommate, it was me…and it wasn’t a week it was the entire fall semester. Are you still there? If so, step away from your computer and go get laid!!

 

Rachael is originally from Harrisburg, PA where she plans to be mayor one day. In the meantime she keeps busy cleaning the skeletons out of her closet, catering to the needs of a very spoiled Siberian Huskie, and hosting her own radio show, Plan DD: The morning after Rachael. Rachael can be reached for questions/comments at rkostel7@gmail.com.